October 2011
53 Questions That You May Not Have Seen Before
- Instructions: You should know these by now.
- 1: What do you put on hotdogs?
- 2: Do you say "anticlimatic" or "anticlimactic"?
- 3: Do you check flyers before grocery shopping?
- 4: Blue, black, or some other colour pen ink?
- 5: Do you use your parking brake?
- 6: Look to your left. How many framed pictures are on the wall?
- 7: Do you know how to play chess?
- 8: How often do you clean the interior of your car?
- 9: Do you ever read the last few pages first?
- 10: Ever fallen in the shower?
- 11: On a scale of 1-10, how likely are you to swear at other drivers?
- 12: What's the worst thing you've ever called someone you care about?
- 13: Do you have a Snuggie?
- 14: Are you allergic to anything?
- 15: Do you have any TV shows on DVD?
- 16: How many times do you hit the snooze button before finally getting out of bed?
- 17: Ever driven away in anger?
- 18: What's your favourite freezie colour?
- 19: Are you a vegetarian?
- 20: Do you have a garbage receptacle beside you? What's on top?
- 21: Do you cross out your mistakes or erase/whiteout them?
- 22: Ever torn something up that you instantly knew was too important for such treatment?
- 23: Do you think that things will get better?
- 24: Do you have an unpopular opinion? What is it?
- 25: What's your favourite quote?
- 26: Did you/are you going to go to prom?
- 27: What's the most physically painful thing you've ever experienced?
- 28: What's the most emotionally/mentally painful thing you've ever experienced?
- 29: Have you ever legitimately saved a person's life?
- 30: What's your favourite book genre?
- 31: Did you like "Gigli"? Be honest.
- 32: Have you ever walked out of a movie at the theatre?
- 33: Do you peek between your fingers during the scary scenes?
- 34: What was your reaction to Tatum getting killed whilst stuck in the pet door in Scream?
- 35: Do dogs like you?
- 36: Would you say that you project an air of authority?
- 37: Do people listen when you speak?
- 38: How are your elbows? Are they okay?
- 39: What is one thing that you do exceptionally well? Be honest.
- 40: Do you use torrents?
- 41: When was the last time you paid for music?
- 42: Are you addicted to technology?
- 43: Pick a person (you don't need to give their name). How do you feel about them? Be as honest as you can get yourself to be.
- 44: Do you check your computer's dictionary for the definition of words you'd otherwise feel confident about using during in-person interactions? Just to be sure?
- 45: How heavily to you rely on spellcheck and autocorrect?
- 46: Have you ever gotten into an argument on the internet? Did you win?
- 47: Do you pause movies/TV shows if you have to go to the bathroom or the kitchen, or do you just let them keep playing?
- 48: If you use a regular alarm clock, do you have it set to music or that obnoxious beeping?
- 49: Peter Pan?
- 50: How often do you fall up the stairs?
- 51: Do you pronounce "anti" as ant-eye or ant-ee? (Example: "That scene was very anticlimactic.")
- 52: Do you pronounce "via" as vee-uh or vie-uh? (Example: "We can get there via Tremont Street.")
- 53: How often do you forget to close your parentheses?
- Please ask as many as you want anon or not. I need distraction right now
When people leave food unsupervised in my presence:
if one more middle school boy hits on me...
seriously, there is nothing sexy about sitting at home in sweats doing homework and handing out candy. and there are so many slutty middle school girls walking around, go be hormonal around them. gosh.
I hate when my mom asks about old friends.
“Why aren’t you hanging with _______ anymore?”
and I’m just like
“She became a whore.”
Tap on my window, knock on my door,
I want to make you feel beautiful.
I know I tend to get so insecure,
Doesn’t matter anymore.
It’s not always rainbows and butterflies.
It’s compromise that moves us along.
My heart is full and my doors always open,
You can come any time you want.
All Over You
The Spill Canvas
The Spill Canvas - “All Over You”
euclase: how to decode a person with an anxiety disorder →
euclase.tumblr.com
things we are trying to do all the time:
- be safe
things we can’t help but do all the time:
- second-guess ourselves
- behave impulsively and reactively
- take everything personally
- worry
- worry
- worry
- have difficulty accepting compliments
- have difficulty reciprocating friendly gestures
- have difficulty finding the courage to respond
- have difficulty not being suspicious of others’ intentions
- make a huge deal out of the smallest thing
things you should keep in mind:
- we’re scared of everything
- pretty much all of the time
- it’s an actual disorder
- it manifests as impulsive behavior
- you can’t fix us with words
- telling us “worrying is silly” won’t make us stop worrying
- it’ll only make us feel silly
- and then we’ll worry even more
- “oh god, am i worrying too much? what if she calls me silly again?”
- like that
- also, we wear a lot of armor
- cold, heavy, affection-proof armor with spikes
- we constructed this armor as children
- we’re fairly certain you will never be able to pry it apart
- but there is a nice person under there, we promise
things you can do for a friend with an anxiety disorder:
- stick around
- ask her if she’s comfortable in a place or situation
- be willing to change the place or situation if not
- activities that help her take her mind off of things are good!
- talk to her even when she might not talk back
- (she’s probably too afraid to say the wrong thing)
- try not to take her reactions (or lack thereof) personally
- (the way she expresses herself is distorted and bent because of her constant fear)
- (and she knows this)
- give her time to respond to you
- she will obsess over how she is being interpreted
- she will anticipate being judged
- it took me four hours just to type this much
- even though i sound casual
- that’s because i have an anxiety disorder
things you shouldn’t do:
- tell us not to worry
- tell us we’ll be fine
- mistake praise for comfort
- ask us if we are “getting help”
- force us to be social
- force us to do things that trigger us
- “face your fears” doesn’t always work
- because—remember—scared of everything
- in fact, it would be more accurate to say we are scared of the fear itself
emergency action procedure for panic attacks:
- be calm
- be patient
- don’t be condescending
- remind us that we’re not crazy
- sit with us
- ask us to tighten and relax our muscles one by one
- remind us that we are breathing
- engage us in a discussion (if we can talk, then we can breathe)
- if we are having trouble breathing, try getting us to exhale slowly
- or breathe through our nose
- or have us put our hands on our stomach to feel each breath
- ask us what needs to change in our environment in order for us to feel safe
- help us change it
- usually, just knowing that we have someone on our side willing to fight our scary monsters with us is enough to calm us down
if you have an anxiety disorder:
- it’s okay.
- even if you worry that it’s not okay.
- it’s still okay. it’s okay to be scared. it’s okay to be scared of being scared.
- you are not crazy. you are not a freak.
- i know there’s a person under all that armor.
- and i know you feel isolated because of it.
- i won’t make you take it off.
- but know that you are not alone.
♥
I love you
But I don’t know in which way yet.
I’d love you every way possible,
but I don’t know how to love right quite yet.
